God is not your best friend.

Perhaps this seems a radical and a mean statement. But this bold statement is one that I wholeheartedly believe to be true. God is not our best friend. He doesn’t want to be our best friend. He wants to be our Lord.

I’m sure you are asking “What does that even mean? Isn’t that the same thing?”

No. It is not. He created us with a purpose and, yes, I believe He wants a relationship with each one of His children, but He doesn’t want to be our BFF and I wouldn’t want God to be my BFF.

In Genesis chapters 1 through 3, we can read about the days of creation. “God created the heavens and the earth” (Gen. 1:1). After each thing that God created, “He saw that it was good” (Gen. 1:4; 1:10; 1:12; 1:18; 1:21; 1:25). After everything had been created and God had appointed man over the earth “God saw all that He had made, and behold it was very good” (Gen. 1:31). God made everything and it was good. Personally, I don’t believe in the big bang or anything like that, and I don’t understand how anyone could believe that everything came from a bang. Everything is too ordered and too beautiful to have been created from chance, it was made at the hands of our Creator.

God made man, however, He didn’t just make man; but He made man in His image (Gen. 1:26-31). We were not made at random or made ugly beings, we were made in the image of God. That is amazing. It blows my mind. I cannot comprehend a Lord that would make us after Him, beautiful like Him. There is nothing casual about that.

After creation came the fall of man with Adam, Eve, and the serpent. The world was filled with sin. And so to atone for sin, humans were forced to make sacrifices to the Lord. They would gather the best animal from their flock and offer it as an offering to atone for their sin. There are several different types of offering for different purposes. (See Leviticus chapter 1-7).

Also in Leviticus we see the effects of presenting unworthy/unholy offerings/sacrifices before the Lord. Leviticus 10 details the sin of Nadab and Abihu, who were priests and the sons of Aaron. They offered strange fire before the Lord, so the fire of the Lord came down and consumed them and they died before the Lord. The Lord takes things seriously. He is not a casual, chill, ordinary God. Therefore we must be careful in what we are offering the Lord.

Its not just our monetary offerings, but the thoughts we have, the words we speak, and our actions. Colossians 3:17 says, “Whatever you do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks through Him to God the Father.” In Romans 12:1-2 Paul tells the believers, “Therefore I urge you, brethren, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies a living and holy sacrifice, acceptable to God, which is your spiritual service of worship. And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, so that you may prove what the will of God is, that which is good and acceptable and perfect.”

There are many places in the Scriptures that encourage those of us who are believers in Christ as our savior, not to be like the world and it’s ways. In John 15, Jesus is teaching that the world will hate believers, but we may be encouraged because the world hated Him first (15:18). And then Jesus continues on in John 15 starting in verse 19:

If you were of the world, the world would love its own; but because you are not of the world, but I chose you out of the world, because of this the world hates you. ‘A slave is is not greater than his master.’ If they persecuted Me, they will also persecute you; if they kept My word, they will keep yours also. But all these things they will do to you for My name’s sake, because they do not know the One who sent me.”

Other passages that deal with this are:

  • John 18:36;
  • 1 John 2:15-17;
  • John 17:13-19;
  • Ephesians 6:10-17;
  • Colossians 3:2.

Our sin has tainted and separated us from oneness with the Lord. “But your iniquities have made a separation between you and your God, And your sins have hidden His face from you so that He does not hear. For your hands are defiled with blood And your fingers with iniquity; Your lips have spoken falsehood, Your tongue mutters wickedness”(Isaiah 59:2-3). Our sin has cause a rift between us and God. He cannot look at us in support when we are choosing to live lives of sin and unwise choices.

It is because of this that God felt the need to send His son Jesus, to die on the cross for every person. Even amidst His ministry and life on the earth, Jesus did not want to die. In Luke 22, Jesus is in the garden of Gethsemane and He is adamantly praying.

“He knelt dow and began to pray, saying, ‘Father, if You are willing, remove this cup from Me; yet not My will, but Yours be done.’ Now an angel from heaven appeared to Him, strengthening Him. And being in agony He was praying very fervently; and His sweat became like drops of blood, falling down upon the ground” (Luke 22:41-44).

Despite His agony in the knowledge that He was going to die, Jesus still wanted the will of God more than His own will. Then He was forced to suffer for our sins. He took the weight of every sin, from then until the time of the Lord’s return, upon Himself. That way we could have atonement for our sins.

That is not something to be taken lightly. To just remember flippantly. It is something we should consider every single time we have the desire to sin. I remember the pain that was inflicted upon Jesus, and it makes me want to weep. Especially knowing that He did it for me. And for you. And for anyone who comes after my time.

Paul tells us in Hebrews 4, “Therefore let us draw near with confidence to the throne of grace, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need” (Hebrews 4:16). I think The best way to approach the throne of God is with a humble spirit. We should God in high esteem. We should fear Him, not in a terrified sort of way, but in a great reverence.

That is why I believe that God does not want to be our bet friend. He wants to be our Lord.


Shout out to Blake Smith & Angelo Europe for all your help! And Trevor Brackeen for your input!

2 thoughts on “God is not your best friend.

  1. God is holy, we are not. Those who have acknowledged their sin and need of a savior, who have surrendered their lives to the lordship of Jesus Christ are indeed saints. Heirs of the Holy One and joint heirs with Jesus. But BBF’s never! Our position here in our earthly realm and in the heavenlies does not equate to a familiarity or common relationship. The Inspired, inerrant, infallible Word of God cautions us about approaching Him casually and making that which is holy, common.
    Thank you for your clarion warning and reminder that I Am is not common, casual or a friend we can “kick it” with!


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